Question for my sisters in Christ. You do realize that not all Christian counsel is good counsel?

when it comes to problems in marriage, right? Some Christians are very eager to quote bible pages and declare that there are no grounds for divorce except for adultery and abuse. But these very same Christians would never tolerate situations that some of us have had to. I feel that a husband who is indifferent to his own child, and refuses to contribute his half to the expenses of the family and chooses to gamble and to go on vacations with friends instead of spending time with his family is a man who is a terrible example for his child and is not committed to the marriage. Many Christians will tell you to get counseling and pray and God will heal the marriage. First of all, not every man is willing to go for counseling, and going alone really doesn't benefit the marriage - believe me, I've spent hundreds on counseling and it has helped little. I have prayed for over 17 years, and have remained in a marriage that never really was a true marriage, and now have a teen son who feels very unloved, bitter, inferior because of indifference from dear ole' dad. That is NOT what God would have wanted for me and for my son! I should have never listened to those self-righteous know-it-alls. Please, use your own good judgement when it comes to the future of your child. If your children are young, and you are in a marriage that you know will only continue to bring unhappiness and chaos, leave and have no regrets.